SUBM.0264.001.0004
Royal
Commission into family violence
bases.-later
I would
have
to
go
to
court and
pay
thousands
of
dollars
to
have
a court reporter
and independent children's lawyer
(ICL)
recommend this.
My
ex-husband breached the
IVO
several times during this trial visitation period. I would inform my
lawyer in hope
to
stop the visits which were causing distress for the children, and affecting them in
school. But instead my lawyer gloated that "this
is
good,
see
I told you, give him enough rope and
he
will
hang himself." "We
go
to
court we
can
use
this
as
evidence". "This
is
gold
...
now
the
judge can't
say
you are
an
over protective mother or a jealous
ex
wife". Mind you I had, from day one,
instructed my lawyer
that
I want
Sole
parental responsibility,
as
he
was
mentally unfit and had
shown no interest in the children for over a year.
He
wasn't even paying child support.
My
lawyer
said "there
is
no
such
thing
as
full custody, he,
as
a father had rights too. And these are his children;
he
should
be
included in making dissensions for them". In my response
to
the courts, and against my
instructions,
he
had filed shared parental responsibility!
Every
time I bought up money for the kids living expenses, my lawyer would
say
'that's a child
support matter'-to
me
this
is
not
good enough.
The
Child support system needs
an
overhaul. Child
support
is
a 'children's matter'. There needs
to
be
tougher, harsher penalties
for
parents who avoid
child support payments.
In
my opinion failure
to
pay child support
is
a form
of
abuse.
If
they really
did
care
about their children, they would pay child support.
My
ex
fought me in court
for
'visitation',
he
never wanted custody, only
because
he
was
told
if
he
had them a percentage
of
the time
it
would
reduce
his
child support payments
or
I might have to
pay
him child support
if
he
has
shared custody.
I
was
honest with my income in court, but my
ex
lied and
is
getting payed
cash
in hand,
so
because
on paper I earned more (centrelink benefits) I would
have
had
to
pay him Child support. I believe
this
is
a
big
reason why parents would pursue visitation,
not
because they
have
an
interest in the
children.
In
my view Child support needs
to
be
incorporated in the legal proceedings, even
if
it's
simply
an
extra form added
to
court applications. There also should
be
harsher penalties such
as
prevention from taking
out
a loan
or
suspend a passport and tougher penalties for employers who
pay
cash
in hand.
The
legal system and the family court in particular, needs
to
be
better linked
up.
Divorce should not
be granted until all financial and children matters are finalised
(If
they are really in a hurry
to
move
on, then they will settle quicker). Those facing criminal charges in a magistrates court,
for
example,
steaming from family violence
or
those who lodge applications in family court should
not
be
allowed
to
simply leave
the
country
..
My
ex
served me with legal papers and informed
me
he
was
leaving-
fo-
on the
same
day.
All the while there were serious criminal charges pending against him, and no child
support payments being made
by
him. I still had
to
attend family court
to
be
told, by the
Judge
there
is
no point for
us
being here
as
he
is not present in court.
My
lawyer charged
me-
for
his
time.
My
lawyer brought up the pending criminal charges against my
ex,
and
his
lawyer just dismissed
it
saying there are no charges your honour "my lawyer then had the nerve
to
ask
me "did
he
really hit
you?
Cause
he's saying
it
didn't
happen".
Mind
you I had been charged close
to-for
my first
affidavit-an affidavit
that
I was told
by
my lawyer at the time
to
keep things
out
of,
don't
put
that
in
or
you will look like
an
over protective mother, leave out the part where the trial visitation with the
kids
failed miserably because you will look like your picking on him and judges hate that; put in
the
fact
he
cheated on you
because
the female judge presiding will sympathise
with
you.
Affidavits are a very big part
of
family court process and
it
is also very costly. I would like
to
see
this
processed reviewed. Perhaps
have
affidavits
not
written
by
lawyers, which
is
where the costs come
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