ADULT
101:
ETIQUETTE
DINING
ETIQUETTE:
TABLE
MANNERS
FOR
TEENS
COUNTY
LIBRARY
OVERVIEW:
Dining
etiquette
(aka
table
manners)
are
the
rules
used
while
eating.
Dining
etiquette
varies
across
countries
and
cultures.
This
program
will
focus
on
American
and
Continental
table
manners.
Teaching
dining
etiquette
will
give
teens
confidence
in
social
dining
situations
with
their
peers
as
well
as
future
employers.
Because,
let's
face
it,
who
wants
to
embarrass
themselves
at
the
dinner
table?
This
program-in-a-box
includes
a
set
of
talking
points
for
library
staff
to
share
during
the
program
as
well
as
activities
staff
may
choose
from
to
illustrate
various
dining
etiquette
principles.
OPTIONAL
PROGRAM
TITLES
AND
PROGRAM
DESCRIPTIONS:
Here
are
a
few
optional
program
titles
and
program
descriptions
for
publicity.
Feel
free
to
change
them
and/or
talk
with
your
RYSC
about
appropriate
options.
Fork
vs.
Spoon
Not
sure
which
fork
to
use?
Worried
your
table
manners
might
offend
your
friends
or
their
parents?
Join
us
for
our
Dining
Etiquette
program
and
learn
how
to
dine
in
style.
Table
Manners
for
Teens
Do
you
have
the
dining
habits
of
a
cave
person?
Does
food
fly
out
of
your
mouth
while
you
chew?
Come
to
the
library
and
learn
how
to
dine
without
embarrassment.
This
program
is
intended
to
prepare
teens
for
adulthood
and
the
workforce
by
teaching
them
basic
dining
etiquette.
After
attending
this
program,
teens
should
feel
better
prepared
for
social
and
work-
related
dining
situations.
PREP
TIME:
30
minutes
PROGRAM
TIME:
40
minutes
to
an
hour
CLEAN-UP
TIME:
20
-
30
minutes
STAFF
REQUIRED:
1
librarian
MATERIALS
IN
THE
PI
AB
•
Forks
•
Knives
•
Napkins
•
Plates
Created
by
LA
County
Library
Cups
Chat
Pack
Conversation
Starters
Blank
Note
Cards
and
Envelopes
Color
markers
ADDITIONAL
SUPPLIES
(NOT
PROVIDED
IN
PIAB)
•
Laptop
(if
available
-
laptops
may
be
requested
from
Teen
Services
or
your
Regional
Office)
•
Projector
(may
be
requested
from
Teen
Services
or
your
Regional
Office)
GENERAL
PROGRAM
INSTRUCTIONS
1.
Start
the
program
by
giving
teens
the
Adult
101
Prep-program
Survey.
2.
Let
the
teens
know
that
the
purpose
of
this
activity
is
to
prepare
them
for
adulthood
and
the
workforce
by
teaching
them
basic
dining
etiquette.
3.
Icebreaker
(approximately
10-15
minutes)-see
pages
5-7.
4.
PowerPoint
Presentation
(5-10
minutes)
This
PowerPoint
presentation
is
optional,
but
really
useful!
Use
this
for
a
formal
presentation
or
keep
it
informal
and
use
PowerPoint
lecture
notes
as
talking
points
without
the
slides.
The
PowerPoint
and
lecture
notes
are
located
on
the
USB
provided
with
the
Adult
101
Library
Binder.
5.
Be
sure
to
share
the
suggested
titles
with
the
teens
and
make
connections
between
the
library's
resource
material
and
adulthood.
For
example,
share
Advance
Your
Swagger:
How
to
Use
Manners,
Confidence,
and
Style
to
Get
Ahead
by
Fonzworth
Bentley
for
advice
on
howto
use
manners
as
a
tool
for
success.
6.
Discussion
and
Activity
Preparation
Staff
need
to
know
the
rules
of
dining
etiquette
in
order
to
share
them
with
teens.
Spend
time
prior
to
the
program
reviewing
the
talking
points
and
becoming
well-versed
in
good
dining
etiquette.
This
program
is
divided
into
two
parts:
the
mechanics
of
eating
and
socializing
at
a
dinner
table.
You
can
do
both
sections
in
one
program
or
you
can
split
them
into
separate
programs.
It's
up
to
you
and
what
you
think
your
teens
will
be
most
interested
in
learning
and
benefit
from
most.
7.
At
the
end
of
the
Dining
Etiquette
program
make
sure
you
give
the
teens
the
Adult
101
post
î‚Š
program
survey.
PROGRAM
#1
-
WHICH
FORK
DO
I
USE?
Dining
Etiquette
is
all
about
table
settings
and
using
the
correct
utensil
in
the
correct
manner.
Table
settings
can
be
a
really
boring
thing
to
learn
so
we
have
done
our
best
to
spice
up
the
program
with
a
few
games
and
activities.
Created
by
LA
County
Library
2
•
Get
the
teen's
warmed
up
to
participate
during
the
program
by
playing
the
Dining
Etiquette
Table
Trivia
Game.
Instructions
are
on
page
4.
•
Discussion:
Why
do
you
think
dining
etiquette
might
be
important
to
adult
life
and
success
in
the
workforce?
Give
teens
a
chance
to
discuss.
•
Give
the
teens
a
blank
piece
of
paper
and
a
pencil.
Have
them
sketch
out
where
they
think
the
following
items
belong
in
an
informal
table
setting:
Dinner
Plate
Water
Glass
Wine
Glass
Napkin
Dinner
Fork
Knife
Teaspoon
Salad
Fork
SoupSpoon
Once
they
have
sketched
their
place
settings,
give
them
the
handout
on
page
11
and
have
them
compare
their
drawing
to
the
handout.
Note:
The
napkin
can
also
go
under
the
forks
in
an
informal
place
setting.
Ask
the
teens
to
identify
difference
between
formal
and
informal
place
settings.
How
many
extra
pieces
of
silverware
does
a
formal
place
setting
have?
Explain
that
formal
dining
involves
a
lot
more
moving
pieces!
There
are
more
forks,
knives,
glasses,
plates,
etc.
In
most
formal
dining
experiences
at
restaurants
the
staff
will
bring
you
the
utensils
you
need
for
each
course
as
the
food
is
brought
out.
It
removes
a
lot
of
the
guesswork!
But,
if
you
are
served
a
formal
meal
in
someone's
home,
it's
good
to
know
what
each
utensil
looks
like
and
how
it
should
be
used.
When
in
doubt
start
with
the
silverware
farthest
from
your
plate
and
work
your
way
in
with
each
course.
•
Review
informal
place
settings
with
your
teens.
Invite
teens
to
make
notes
on
their
copy
of
the
place
setting
handout.
o
Napkins
are
placed
either
in
the
middle
of
your
place
setting
or
to
the
left
of
the
plate.
The
napkin
to
your
right
does
not
belong
to
you.
During
a
meal,
your
napkin
belongs
where?
In
your
lap.
Ifyou
need
to
leave
the
table
during
a
meal,
your
napkin
should
rest
on
your
seat
and
not
on
the
table.
At
the
end
of
a
meal,
your
napkin
may
be
placed
to
the
left
of
your
plate
as
everyone
is
leaving
the
table.
o
Forks
go
to
the
left
of
the
plate
and
are
pointy
side
up.
If
a
salad
is
being
served,
then
a
salad
fork
(the
smaller
of
the
two
forks)
is
seton
the
table
to
the
outside
of
the
dinner
fork.
o
The
dinner
knife
and
spoon
are
to
the
right
of
the
plate
with
the
knife
edge
facing
toward
the
plate
and
the
spoon
on
the
outside
of
the
knife
facing
up.
Created
by
LA
County
Library
o
All
of
your
beverages
are
to
the
right
of
your
place
setting
with
your
water
glass
being
the
closest
to
the
center
and
other
beverages
extending
to
the
right.
o
If
you
have
a
bread
plate
it
rests
at
the
top
left
of
your
dinner
plate.
o
If
a
salad
is
served
at
the
same
time
as
the
main
course
it
sits
on
a
separate
plate
during
a
meal
and
goes
where
the
bread
plate
normally
sits.
If
a
salad
is
served
as
a
first
course
or
appetizer
then
the
salad
plate
rests
on
the
dinner
plate.
PART
2
-GET
SOCIAL!
Socializing
during
a
dining
experience
can
be
tricky
if
you
don't
know
howto
do
it
properly!
Nobody
wants
to
dine
with
someone
who
doesn't
know
how
to
pass
the
bread
basket,
or
who
talks
while
their
mouth
is
full,
or
who
ignores
the
person
to
their
left.
Start
this
section
by
asking
the
teens
what
social
manners
they
expect
to
see
at
the
dinner
table.
Feel
free
to
give
them
a
few
of
the
tips
below
to
start
the
conversation.
Once
the
teens
are
done
brainstorming
social
manners
associated
with
dining,
share
any
of
the
rules
of
etiquette
below
that
were
not
covered
in
their
discussion.
•
In
formal
settings
when
dining
at
someone's
home,
wait
for
the
host
to
direct
you
where
to
sit.
•
Begin
eating
once
everyone
is
seated
at
the
table.
•
Refrain
from
placing
your
elbows
on
the
table
while
eating.
•
Show
teens
the
continental
and
American
styles
of
holding
utensils.
You
can
find
information
about
that
in
this
Forbes
article:
https:/
/www.forbes.com/
sites/work-in-
progress/2012/02/29/seriously-simple-dining-etiquette-guide-american-and-continental-
styles/#241303b49ba6
•
The
mouth
should
be
kept
closed
while
chewing.
It's
not
pretty.
Avoid
talking
or
opening
your
mouth
while
chewing
food.
Wait
until
your
food
is
swallowed.
•
When
passing
serving
dishes
around
the
table,
pass
food
to
your
right.
•
Rather
than
reaching
over
another
guest
for
an
item
on
the
table,
ask
the
guest
closest
to
that
item
to
pass
it
to
you.
•
When
socializing
during
the
meal,
do
not
neglect
the
person
on
your
other
side
during
conversation.
•
Avoid
gesturing
with
your
silverware
while
talking.
Nobody
wants
a
fork
or
knife
flying
through
the
air
if
you
get
excited
while
telling
a
story
and
gesture
wildly!
Created
by
LA
County
Library
4
•
Keep
conversation
on
the
lighter
side.
Avoid
conversation
that
is
too
controversial
or
gross
topics
while
eating.
Socialize
with
the
people
at
the
table,
not
on
your
cellphone.
Do
not
use
your
cellphone
or
other
electronic
devices
at
the
dinner
table.
•
Be
aware
of
the
various
styles
of
eating
for
different
cultures,
such
as
using
chopsticks
or
continental
style
eating.
A
good
rule
of
thumb:
when
in
Rome,
do
as
the
Romans
do.
In
other
words,
use
the
eating
style
of
the
environment
you
are
in.
See
your
librarian
for
resources
on
various
styles
of
eating.
After
talking
about
good
social
etiquette
at
a
dining
table,
play
the
following
game
with
your
teens.
Split
them
into
two
teams.
Cut
out
strips
of
paper
with
etiquette
faux
pas
on
them
(feel
free
to
photocopy
the
faux
pas
below).
Have
one
team
act
out
the
faux
pas
and
see
if
the
other
team
can
guess
what
they
are
doing
wrong.
DinnerTable
Faux
Pas
Chewing
with
your
mouth
open.
Resting
your
elbows
on
the
table.
Placing
your
napkin
on
the
table
during
the
meal.
Gesturing
with
your
silverware
while
talking
with
the
person
next
to
you
Only
talking
to
the
person
on
your
right.
Neglecting
to
pass
an
item
that
is
going
around
the
table.
Reaching
across
the
table
to
grab
something
Holding
their
utensils
in
a
fist.
Licking
butter/sauce/food
off
a
utensil.
Passing
food
to
the
left.
Created
by
LA
County
Library
5
ICEBREAKER
DINING
IN
BOOKSAND
FILM
LIBRARY
TRIVIA
This
game
is
designed
like
pub
trivia,
but
since
we
are
doing
this
game
with
teens,
we
are
calling
it
library
trivia.
Print
out
copies
of
the
game
sheet
on
page
7.
Get
your
teens
into
teams
of
3
-
4
each
and
give
each
team
3
copies
of
the
trivia
sheet,
1
for
each
round
of
the
game.
As
you
read
the
clues,
have
them
discuss
possible
answers
and
write
them
on
their
game
sheet.
Smart
phones,
books,
and
other
research
tools
are
prohibited.
At
the
end
of
each
round
teenswill
score
their
sheet.
For
each
correct
answer
they
will
get
1
point.
The
highest
scoring
team
after
3
rounds
wins!
Round
1
-
DINING
IN
LITERATURE
1)
Character
in
a
famous
dystopian
trilogy
who
is
named
after
a
middle
eastern
pocket
bread.
Answer:
Peeta,
The
Hunger
Games
by
Suzanne
Collins
2)
The
school
year
in
this
series
begins
with
the
Start-of-Term
Feast
in
the
Great
Hall.
Answer:
Harry
Potter
by
J
.
K.
Rowling
3)
In
this
book,
drinking
the
bottle
labelled,
"DRINK
ME"
makes
you
shrink
and
eating
the
cake
that
says,
"EAT
ME"
makes
you
grow.
Answer:
Alice's
Adventures
in
Wonderland
by
Lewis
Carroll
4)
The
people
of
small
stature
in
this
series
of
books
eat
breakfast,
second
breakfast,
elevenses,
lunch,
afternoon
tea,
dinner
and
supper.
Answer:
The
Lord
of
the
Rings
byJ.R.R.
Tolkien
5)
The
vampires
in
this
series
of
books
consider
themselves
vegetarians
because
they
only
drink
animal
blood.
Answer:
Twilight
by
Stephenie
Meyer
6)
The
family
of
boys
in
this
literary
classic
love
to
eat
chocolate
cake
for
breakfast.
Answer:
The
Outsiders
by
S.E.
Hinton
Round
2-
DINING
IN
MOVIES
1)
Steven
Spielberg
and
George
Lucas
grossed
everyone
out
with
the
feast
of
monkey
brains,
eyeball
soup,
and
snake
surprise
in
this
film.
Answer:
Indiana
Jones
and
the
Temple
of
Doom
2)
After
escaping
captivity
at
the
beginning
of
Iron
Man,
Tony
Stark
just
wants
one
food.
What
food
is
it?
Answer:
a
cheeseburger
3)
This
classic
cartoon
finds
two
dogs
kissing
over
a
single
strand
of
spaghetti.
Answer:
Lady
and
the
Tramp
4)
The
main
character
of
this
holiday
classic
puts
syrup
on
EVERYTHING.
Answer:
Elf
Created
by
LA
County
Library
6
5)
Robin
Williams
famously
face
planted
into
a
cream
pie
in
order
to
disguise
his
face
in
this
90s
classic.
Answer:
Mrs.
Doubtfire
6)
Rats
cooking
in
the
kitchen
Answer:
Ratatouille
Round
3
-
HISTORY
OF
AMERICAN
CUISINE
1)
Where
did
the
hot
dog
originate?
Answer:
Germany
2)
When
did
the
term
"milkshake"
first
appear
in
print?
Answer:
1885
(closest
answer
wins
a
point)
3)
The
Pronto
Pup
vendors
at
the
1941
Minnesota
State
Fair
claim
to
have
invented
this
fair
favorite.
Answer:
corn
dog
4)
Which
European
country
published
the
first
written
apple
pie
recipe?
Answer:
England
5)
The
chef
of
this
famous
Massachusetts
inn
invented
the
chocolate
chip
cookie.
Hint:
a
brand
of
chocolate
chips
also
gets
its
name
from
this
inn.
Answer:
Toll
House
Inn
6)
This
southern
breakfast
staple
has
its
roots
in
the
Native
American
Muskogee
tribe's
preparation
of
corn.
Answer:
Grits
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by
LA
County
Library
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by
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County
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Do,
What
to
Say,
And
How
to
Behave
by
Kay
West
ISBN:
9781401600648
50
Things
Every
Young
Lady
Should
Know
provides
a
modern
update
on
the
ageless
idea
that
girls
should
know
appropriate
and
courteous
responses
to
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395
TOKSVIG
The
Tricky
Art
of
Co-Existing:
How
to
Behave
Decently
No
Matter
What
Life
Throws
Your
Way
by
Sandi
Toksvig
ISBN:
9781615192212
The
author
covers
table
manners;
communication
from
the
wolf
whistle
to
the
formal
invitation;
interaction
with
family,
coworkers,
and
strangers;
travel;
personal
relationships;
raising
civilized
children;
and
dealing
with
those
who
are
dying
or
newly
bereaved.
395
Advance
Your
Swagger:
How
to
Use
Manners,
Confidence,
and
Style
to
Get
Ahead
By
Fonzworth
Bentley
ISBN:
9781400064533
"My
manners
were
the
first
ingredient
that
set
me
apart
from
my
peers,"
notes
the
suave
and
stylish
Fonzworth
Bentley,
Sean
"Diddy"
Combs's
former
personal
assistant
and
a
celebrity
in
his
own
right.
Now,
in
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one-of-a-kind
book,
Bentley
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Includes
the
art
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eating
well,
from
which
glass
to
use
to
handling
the
napkin
642.7
The
Art
of
the
Table:
A
Complete
Guide
to
Table
Setting,
Table
Manners,
and
Tableware
by
Suzanne
von
Drachenfels
ISBN:
0684847329
For
the
novice
host,
this
is
an
easy-to-follow,
guide
with
more
than
one
hundred
helpful
illustrations.
For
the
host
with
more
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it
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a
rich
and
exciting
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new
ideas.
Like
its
author,
whose
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for
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table
is
contagious,The
Art
of
the
Table
is
an
authoritative,
elegant,
and
sophisticated
resource
for
all
one's
dining
needs.
395.54
Tiffany's
Table
Manners
for
Teenagers
by
Walter
Hoving
IBSN:
0394828771
Here
is
the
perfect
little
book
for
anyone-teenage
or
otherwise-who
has
ever
wanted
to
master
the
art
of
good
table
manners.
Created
by
LA
County
Library
Fiction
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ISBN:
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At
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young
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Certainly,
they
learn
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arts
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A
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out
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restaurant
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the
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Useful
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table
etiquette
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